Thursday, January 17, 2013

FACING THE NEW YEAR WHEN YOU ARE BEREAVED

Maureen Kramlinger, VITAS Consultant and Writer

When we are grieving, it is hard enough to live each day as it comes. It can be daunting to face a whole new year stretching out in front of us. We may be afraid of what the New Year might bring. We may worry whether or not we can handle any more challenges. Our current experience of emptiness and loneliness may make us reluctant to face a new year.

We might say to ourselves, “I used to be so busy. I used to feel so needed, so useful. Now it seems there’s nothing but empty space and empty time.” On-schedule delivery of another year might deliver more of the same. It’s bad enough to wake in the morning not sure what we’ll do with the day. Now, what will we do with a whole year?